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When you're single and looking for love, the prospect of finding a healthy relationship can seem daunting. Whether you want to date the old-fashioned way or you prefer the process of modern dating — making a dating profile that stands outcombing through your matches, and of course, actually going out on dates — it can take a lot of time and effort to find a fulfilling relationship.
While that might not be exactly what you want to hear, the good news is that dating, although challenging, can also be super fun and rewarding, particularly if you practice healthy dating habits. But what does it even mean to have "healthy" habits when it comes to dating?
Essentially, it boils down to being mindful — both of who you are as a person, and of what you want in another person.
You may notice things you are doing wrong, and take steps to remedy the situation. If you're serious about finding a long-term partner that's perfect for youhere are nine habits that people who find the relationships they want have in common, according to experts. Although Jerry McGuire might have made audiences swoon with his emotional "you complete me" speechin reality, you shouldn't be looking for someone to make you feel whole — you should feel like a complete person on your own before adding someone else to the mix.
I am not talking about finding a soulmate, nor am I talking about perfect halves, or 'you complete me' ideas. Those have their place, sure, but you ought to be an individual before you become a couple. One of the most important, but often overlooked, good dating habits? Being willing to trust your gut when it's telling you someone is or is not a good match for you. That internal voice is almost never wrong, and even if you're conscious mind can't pinpoint the problem, you know it's not right. Wait for the person who doesn't give you that bad feeling.
At the very beginning of a relationship, both people are typically on their best behavior — which means that if someone isn't treating you the way you want to be treated upfront, you should be confident enough to call things off. If you really hit it off with someone, feelings can develop fast — but instead of rushing into a commitment right away, you're better off taking the time to really get to know a person before you hitch their figurative wagon to yours.
For the rest of us, when we fall too hard too soon for the wrong one, it's a dumpster fire from start to finish. Spend time getting to know each other. Watch for the small als that you can or can't trust each other. Pay attention less to what they say and more to what they do.
Each of you should have to work for this relationship, and that can take time. If I had a dollar for every time I've been called "thirsty" just because I was open about wanting a serious relationshipI'd have a lot of dollars.
Honestly, though, the notion that "thirstiness" for a relationship is a bad thing is not only outdated, but harmful. If wanting to be with someone makes you thirsty, then every person in a relationship is thirsty. People who get the relationship they want know this — playing it cool, being aloof and pretending that there's something wrong with unapologetically saying 'I want a relationship' is for people who are willing to stay single indefinitely. Before you can find a healthy relationship with someone else, you first need to have a healthy relationship with yourself — something you can achieve over time through practicing self love.
When we're missing self love we'll open up the door for unhealthy relationships. Even if being single isn't your preference, you should still at least feel happy and comfortable when you're not attached — because your relationship status shouldn't be your only source of happiness. Singles who are comfortable being alone don't suffocate and put as much pressure on a relationship. Relationships need freedom to survive. We all have relationship dealbreakersand healthy daters know that sticking to those — even when you like plenty of other things about a person — is the only way to find someone who will truly make a good match in the long run.
Knowing what these are and sticking to them will help you in the long run by weeding out those that you are unlikely to take far into the future. The most important healthy dating habit to adopt ASAP? Being able to find joy in the process of datingeven when the going gets tough and you feel like you'll never find the right person spoiler alert: you will. You should embrace the sometimes confusing and obscure path to romance, laugh about the mishaps, take interest in the people you meet and try new things.
If you have a positive outlook toward the process, good things are sure to come. Ultimately, dating isn't something that's going to always be easy-breezy: it takes a lot of effort, but if you're happy with who you are and know exactly what you want, it's only a matter of time until someone comes along who was totally worth the wait.
By Laken Howard.
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