Dating someone with terminal illness

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Dating someone with terminal illness

But the real love story happens after the falling, when our feet hit the ground and we are presented with the choice to stay or run after realizing the love story contains our messes, our brokenness, our faults and mistakes, our desires and passions, our pain and deepest regrets, our darkest secrets and greatest triumphs. This is our love story:. The diner smelled of bacon and coffee and stale cigarette smoke still clinging to the walls from former days.

Phil and I were directed to a booth by the hostess. Phil sat across from me. We ordered coffees. I was nervous and was folding and refolding the paper napkin. It was hard to look at him, so I just focused on the napkin folding. He told me what I already knew he was there to say. We had been dating for a little over nine months. I had badgered him for months to get a follow up check-up after his surgery—the removal of one of his lungs that was riddled with cancerous tumors a year or so prior to our meeting each other.

That day, the diner day, he finally went for a check-up. His face showed no emotion, but his voice was heavy with disappointment and apprehension.

Dating someone with terminal illness

Although I already knew it from the way he sounded on the phone as he asked me to meet him at the diner, but finally hearing it from him, my heart sank deep into my chest. My heart broke, experiencing the first of many fractures and breaks to follow. I was ill-prepared for this information and tears welled in my eyes and poured down my cheeks. I was half-joking, trying to keep spirits light.

It just came out.

Dating someone with terminal illness

Phil took me to Glenwood Springs a day after Christmas and proposed. When we got back from that weekend away, I immediately started planning an outdoor, August wedding. From the beginning of our relationship, there was always some kind of an unspoken urgency, and so when he asked me to meet him at the mall a couple of weeks later, he proposed again. We were married February 28, He died November 20, My choosing to marry Phil was recently questioned in a conversation. You have to take responsibility for some of the struggles you are now facing. You took on that risk.

I have actually heard so many strange and oftentimes insensitive things, nothing really shocks me anymore. This is the truth I have settled on, when two people hit the ground after falling in love. Our four year marriage was jam-packed with events of a lifetime, three babies in two years, trying to run a successful business and a terminal cancer diagnosis stalking us along the way.

Our marriage was raw, fast-paced and painfully beautiful. Maybe our love story was never meant to be a fairy tale with a happily ever after. Maybe our love story resonates more with those of the star-crossed lovers in literature. Those relationships are doomed from the start, because their paths were predetermined by the stars. These lovers work throughout their whole relationship, to do everything in his or her power to control the outcome.

In the end, all those attempts to stay together fail because their paths have already been predetermined, already set. The star-crossed are those who fall quickly and powerfully in love, not knowing much about the other, but knowing that something bigger than themselves is in the works. Those who fight for one another despite all earthly odds stacked against them.

Dating someone with terminal illness

Maybe therein lies the romance—we, any one of us here on this earth, choose to love and unite with another human being who is as broken as we are. We choose to weave our lives together with one another, always knowing in the back of our minds that we can lose that person and the strings holding us together can be frayed and untied. Choosing to stay regardless. Despite whatever giants were looming, Phil and I had something far greater than those star-crossed lovers, who only had each other; we had God.

So, was the choice to marry Phil terrifying at times? Hell yes. Our marriage was nowhere near perfect. We were newlyweds and new parents. Choosing to stay regardless of the brokenness also created a million little reflections incredibly beautiful, peaceful, loving, passionate and profound moments that shine brighter than our darkest days. Absolutely, but they are the most beautiful part of this story. You ed up for this. Absolutely not.

This is my truth. This is my love story. Nicole is a is a widowed mom to three children. She believes the art of storytelling brings people out of the dark into the light together to share in joy, humor, suffering and pain in life. She hopes that by sharing her story with transparency and heart will bring others hope and empower them to share their own stories. We are NOT what has happened to us or what this world says we are. That is not what defines us.

Dating someone with terminal illness

While we are grieving parents, that is not what our whole story has to be about. Although, at times, we feel that our story is over. We ask, how do we go on and live full lives without our sweet Sophie with us? BUT the Lord says I am beloved. I am redeemed and accepted. I am holy and chosen. I am righteous and complete. I had never really been aware of the world of antidepressants. My life has been relatively uneventful—with the normal ups and downs that most of us go through. I knew people on medication for depression but never understood.

I felt bad for people going through it. Then my 2-year-old was diagnosed with Stage Most people never get to meet their heroes. I have, in fact—I have met many heroes. And when we talk about this type of battle, there is no such thing as losing. My heroes are the innocent children who battle cancer. I high-fived, hugged, wept over, laughed and played with my heroes for 10 years as a nurse. And you better believe I Martha pointed.

Dating someone with terminal illness

That is how I met Martha. My house is always clean. The laundry gets done quickly.

Dating someone with terminal illness

The dishes are rarely stacked up in the sink.

Dating someone with terminal illness

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This is what it feels like to date when you’re terminally ill