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After almost a decade of arguing about the same thing, Louise Krieger left her husband. They were both 36 at the time. Young enough, she says, to still find the "right partner". We heard from Louise about her content single life after publishing an article on owning your single status. And while re-establishing herself after divorce had its challenges, falling in love with her own company has made it all worthwhile.

She shares her experience of starting over in a country town, her thoughts on having children, and how she's learnt to comfort herself when things get tough. We were saying goodbye at the airport in Germany when I was leaving to return to Australia to study law. Never did I think we wouldn't survive that time apart. I thought ending it would allow us an opportunity to find partners we were more suited to while we were still relatively young. Get our newsletter for the best of ABC Everyday each week.

I've seen people marry because of a fear of missing out on somebody to have children with — thank God I never had that.

Divorced single women

While I was married I lived in non-English speaking countries and was financially dependent on my husband. I had become dependent on him in many ways — I didn't have a licence, I didn't even have a mobile phone. When I did find a house I could afford, it was a far cry from what I had been accustomed to, in a regional town where I knew no-one, and I struggled to make any kind of connection. It was an ex-housing commission home in Orange. It was in really bad condition, there had been 15 people squatting in here before I moved in and no garden. Forty years old and at no stage had anyone thought about putting in as much as a single shrub.

I constantly lived with a feeling of having made a mistake, and that I was living the life I had never wanted. That gave me some money to make small improvements to my very humble home and I became engrossed in DIY and gardening. Although I survived by constantly reminding myself that this house was just a stepping stone, it slowly became my home — somewhere I didn't think about leaving anymore for something better. I found that being happy in a small home was infinitely preferable to being miserable in what was essentially a gilded prison.

Divorced single women

And then I ed a wildlife rescue group and found something that finally bought me the satisfaction and sense of purpose I'd never found in my marriage. I felt really tired today, so I slept until 1pm. When I was married I would have felt guilty doing that. Knowing that you don't need the person in your life to make you happy makes you more selective, which also makes it harder to find someone. I'm not the sort of person who gets lonely and seeks company. I'm happy spending Saturday night alone with a book.

I think deep down they think, "Poor girl, no children, no husband, she must be miserable. I understand why people feel that if you don't have kids there must be a huge thing missing from life, but I'm able to do the things I love doing because I don't have children.

Divorced single women

When I told my friend I'd had a nightmare and it was the first time I hadn't been able to wake my husband and tell him about it, she told me there was something empowering about learning how to comfort ourselves. I knew she was right, and I learnt how to do this not just with nightmares, but with any kind of fears. I learnt to solve my own problems, depend more on my own judgement and be more accepting of the mistakes I made.

At first, I launched into a round of internet dating, only to find myself sitting opposite people I didn't like half so much as my former husband. I went on holiday to Queensland and met someone I liked well enough to have a distant relationship with for about six months, until I found myself asking why, if I had never wanted to be a mother, I was with someone who needed so much mothering?

The last person I dated began complaining about the way I would drop everything to attend a needy animal. I thought that was a bit rich coming from someone who would do the same to me if one of his kids needed him. In the end I realised that I just wanted and needed the freedom to do what I had to do without the encumbrance of having to consider someone else. While I would be open to forming a connection with someone who was truly compatible with me, I accept that being a shift worker and prioritising injured wildlife over holidays and social functions mean the chances of this happening are remote.

I have the freedom to do the things that I want to do without worrying how that will impact on anyone else. Those dreams used to haunt and confuse me, but now I accept them for what they are: a yearning for what was good in our relationship, and what I miss about it. When I first broke up with my husband, I asked myself what would I do if I didn't find anyone — would I be happy to spend the rest of my life on my own? I answered that affirmatively, but realised that if I was going to be my own constant companion, I'd best be the kind of person I'd want to be friends with.

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While her ex-husband did just that, nine years on Louise remains on her own. What might have surprised her younger self is how much she prefers it that way. Tell me about your decision to end the marriage The last time I saw my husband we were still married.

He very quickly found someone else.

Divorced single women

Nine years later, I am still single. address. How to own your single status at the start of the year. Why these women are 'marrying' themselves. Why more women are choosing the single life. Childfree women over 40 share why they have no regrets. Turning your ex into a friend can be beneficial if done right. Is it really possible to be 'friends with benefits' without catching feelings? Orange, Relationships, Wellness, Divorce. Back to top.

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