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A dating break can be a refreshing and necessary time for self-reflection and enjoying one's own company. After some time, though, you may find yourself wanting to enjoy someone else's company, too. Taking a dip back into the cold waters of the dating pool can be intimidating. There's the paralysis of choice — not only for choosing a match on a dating app, for example, but choosing an app itself. And then there's the anxiety and all the uncertainty. The first question to ask yourself is whether dating again is right for you at this moment. Only you can answer this question.
Know that your pace may be different from that of others, said Kiana Reeves, somatic sex educator and chief brand officer at the plant-based sexual wellness brand Foria. As you ponder whether you're ready, focus on what gives you pleasure in terms of self-love, but also make sure to engage in other activities you enjoy, such as spending time with friends and family.
Figure out your motivations for wanting to date. If it has to do with "proving a point" to an ex that you're still desirable, or that your relationship is really overdon't start dating, said Joe KortPhD, certified sex therapist and co-director of sexual medicine training provider Modern Sex Therapy Institutes.
The same goes when you're looking for a new relationship to alleviate the pain of your one. That doesn't work, said Kort. Kort also dispelled a couple longstanding dating adages as myths. The first is that people have to wait a certain amount of time to assure they're "over" their past relationship before getting back out there. Instead of setting a calendar date to re-download Tinder, Kort advises trusting yourself and how you're feeling. The second myth is that people shouldn't get into a relationship until they're "healthy" again.
If you need time — especially if your past relationship was in any way traumatic or abusive — take all that you need. But if you're itching to get back out there for reasons other than trying to "prove" something to your ex or something similarthere's no need to set timelines. In addition to trusting yourself, Reeves said to be honest with yourself and others about where you're at.
d psychologist and relationship expert Nikki Coleman said to ask yourself two questions: Will dating again enhance my life? And, do I want to expend my energy dating right now? Dating is a s game, Coleman said, which means spending time and mental capacity and oftentimes, money to find a match.
The only person who will know if you're ready to date again is you, no matter what well-intentioned family and friends say. Reentering the dating world can bring up a slew of emotions, Reeves said, including apprehension, excitement, and uncertainty. Beginning with some clarity about what you want can help.
Are you looking for a long-time relationship or a cheeky hookup? Having a goal in mind can help guide you in how you want to connect and how to go about it.
For someone seeking a long-term relationship, for example, the "deed to be deleted" Hinge is probably a better app option than sexual exploration-minded Feeld. Having an intention can help you identify qualities you're looking for in another person as well. Do they seem ready for a relationship, or whatever connection you want? At the same time, Coleman urges people to stay curious and open to possibilities. Dating should be fun, she said, and an exploration of yourself as much as getting to know someone else. As such, you can reframe this experience.
Instead of focusing on the negative — say, how long it's been since you've dated — you can think about all you've learned about yourself and what you want. Whether you set a goal or not, start slow, said Coleman and Kort. It's OK if you're rusty. There's no need to, say, schedule five first dates in a week. You don't want to burn yourself out or set unrealistic expectations for your first few dates. Set boundaries with yourself and others.
Coleman suggests making a checklist of all the things you need to feel as safe and secure as possible. Say you only want to go on one date a week, or you don't want to text a potential match all day. These are all reasonable requests — you just have to be honest with your dates about them.
Know that you can put on the breaks anytime if a relationship isn't moving in a direction you like, said Kort. Video or phone dates are also great options if you find that you're not ready for in-person connection. Especially in COVID times, virtual dates allow you to meet people without the potential health risks that come with in-person connections right now.
Reeves suggests pacing yourself with sex, as with dating. Embrace the activities that make you feel good, whether solo or with a partner. Ask yourself what intimacy looks like for you. Figure that out before getting intimate with a partner. Kissing for the first few dates or just hand-holding and talking is more than OK, and can actually forge a deep connection, according to Reeves. While your body may want sex ified by getting arousedyour brain may need more time.
You can wait until you get a resounding yes from your mind that you feel safe and ready. If you're feeling awkward about sex and intimacy, you're not alone, especially if you're reading this during COVID times. Once you're ready to sleep with someone new, Reeves suggests coming prepared for the best experience. Pack condoms, lube, and whatever else you need to feel most comfortable. Have an open conversation with your new partner about your boundaries and what feels good for you. You'll end up doing what gives you the most pleasure, and you'll be at ease knowing limits have been set. Awkwardness around these conversations are par for the course.
It means you are staying curious and open, and it's a good that honest communication and learning are happening. Open communication doesn't just lead to the feeling of safety; it also le to better sex, period. Dating after a break can be nerve-wracking, but through honest conversations — with yourself and others — and mindful steps, you may find yourself splashing happily in the deep end. More in DatingSex. Social Good. Ready to get back in on the action but you're a bit rusty? How do you date after a long break? How to separate romantic rejection from your self-worth Rejection is part of the process that le us towards what we're looking for.
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