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How easy is it to start a relationship after being bereaved? Three couples tell their stories. C arole Henderson was only 40 when she lost her husband Kevin to skin cancer in Eighteen months on, she was ready to start dating again. Having met Kevin when she was a teenager, however, she found jumping back into the dating pool a daunting experience. Many men were put off by the fact she had been widowed, too. They were friends before a relationship began to develop.
As his feelings for Carole grew, though, he had a few concerns. They were lovely, and I think they were just pleased to see Carole happy again. It helped that Carole was so open with him.
Nothing was out of bounds. He quickly became comfortable asking questions about her past. It helped me to manage my own insecurities and emotions much better. She has since become a senior trainer and managing director of the UK team.
After talking things through, they decided to move to create a home together. Joanna met her partner Colin both names have been changed on a dating website, 13 months after her husband died of cancer in early He said he wanted someone else to see my eyes sparkle. She and Colin hit it off from the moment they met, but she says he struggles to come to terms with the fact she has been widowed.
I think Colin felt like he was in competition.
Social media has made life harder, as it brings up so many memories. You can love more than one person in your lifetime. Respecting former and current partners is a balancing act for many widows. As well as avoiding comparisons, she says it is important to remember your partner in a realistic way.
When anyone starts a relationship, particularly later in life, it is not unusual for jealousy to surface. We all carry emotional baggage, whether or not bereavement is part of it.
For Thomas Dowds and Moira Stockman, who married earlier this year, jealousy has never been an issue. When they met, they had both been widowed, which they say made it easier to talk about their former partners. In the weeks that followed, he says, there was no opportunity for him to grieve, because he was trying to stay strong for their two girls, who were seven and nine. After the dust settled and his well-wishers went back to their normal lives, Thomas sought counselling to help him to cope with his loss.
He also ed Widowed and Younga charity support group for widows and widowers in the UK. As well as dealing with grief, I was so scared of losing another person that I loved. Moira, whose partner Alastair died when her children were toddlers, says they were aware they needed to take the relationship slowly.
Although the four children got on brilliantly, her eldest son struggled to come to terms with the idea of her and Thomas as a couple, because he was worried about losing his mum to him. One day he told me that he knew Thomas was a good man, and I think that was a real turning point for us. The couple say that talking about their past relationships is an important part of their marriage and helps the children to understand where they came from. Thomas adds that being widowed has taught him to enjoy every happy moment and stop sweating the small stuff. It is a common philosophy among those who have experienced loss.
Although he knows he and other widowers will always feel sad about the loss of their partners, finding love again has given him a new lease of life. Ian and Carole Henderson. Lizzie Cernik. Mon 22 Apr Topics Relationships Family features. Reuse this content.How to start dating again after your spouse dies
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