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All rights reserved. She tells Melissa Wong how she did it. As and teenager, I was rounder and heavier than my peers, and when I was in university I developed an eating disorder and suffered with body image issues, which left me depressed for a time.
He was handsome and sophisticated, and seven years older than me.
An entrepreneur in the fashion industry, he hung out with models and other good-looking people, and I felt the pressure to look like them. However, as we got closer and spent more time together, he got less generous with the compliments and became quite controlling. As we always showed up to his work events together, I also understood that it was important for me to look polished and groomed — like his female model friends.
However, over the next couple of years, I became so obsessed with my weight and fitting into certain types of clothes that my old diet habits returned and I began to cut out entire food groups. I felt weak half the time but convinced myself that I looked good, because everyone said so. Occasionally, people even mistook me for a model whenever they saw me with Eric. A few stressful months at work saw me seek comfort in all my favourite fattening treatsand pretty soon I gained the 5kg that I needed, plus a few extra kilograms.
I got back down to 48kg but felt absolutely horrible physically, not to mention, depressed. When I thought back to my time in university when I struggled to be thin, I knew that that was the last thing I wanted to experience again. After I turned 30, a medical check-up revealed that my body was lacking in several crucial vitamins and minerals, like iron and calcium. To make things worse my hair was falling out and I had trouble concentrating at work. My doctor put me on a weight-gain programme and warned me not to go on an extreme diet again.
Two months later my weight went back up to 55kg and I began to feel healthy again. He made fun of my belly and thighs and also tried to restrict what I ate — for example he would order food for me whenever we went out and forbade me from ordering alcoholic drinks. He also got one of his personal trainer friends to de a workout schedule for me. In about three months I put on an extra 3kg, getting up to about 58kg.
I felt beautiful and healthy. I took up martial arts and began lifting weights, which transformed my body from scrawny and weak to muscular and strong.
I also stopped giving in to pressure to look a certain way, so I stopped wearing all my figure-hugging outfits and changed how I did my hair and makeup. Instead, I opted for a more natural, girl-next-door look. Eric hated this change in my appearance, telling me that I had let myself go and accusing me of not caring about his social and professional image. Being impressionable and desperate to fit in with the cool, glamorous crowd, I allowed a superficial, arrogant, narcissistic man to control how I treated my body and dictate the way I looked.
I was done living for somebody else and neglecting my own happiness in the process. These days I am a lot healthier. What to do and say when your friend tells you they're cheating. I would like to receive marketing materials from SPH Media, its subsidiaries and partners. Also available at:. Photo: rf. Life Ask Jay: How do I handle rejection? View More. Fill Me In! By ing up, you indicate that you have read and agreed with our Privacy Statement.True feedee stories
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